Baby Bottom’s Worst Hook-up Ever?

Travis and I developed my most reliable FWB relationship to date. For about three months we were getting together every other Friday at 10 AM to have sex. I knew it wasn’t going to last. Travis and I have really nice sexual chemistry, but he really wanted to be my boyfriend. I had made it

Zipcodes and Sexual Labels

We humans love to label stuff- and I get it! It’s really convenient to have categories for things- it keeps me from drinking Sprite and thinking it’s water (suuuch a shocking experience 💥😵). But when it comes to how humans label their sexuality (words like “gay”, “bisexual”, “lesbian”, “demisexual”, etc.), the value of these labels

Getting Too Attached Too Quickly

In November I met Joe on Scruff. Initially, I wasn’t terribly drawn to him, but I read his profile, and the more I read about him, the more appealing he seemed to me: we both have kids, we both live in old farmhouses, he has a real job, and seemed very witty and interesting. I

Where Sex Is Holy…and Slutty

Today is a very special day for me. One year ago, I first touched a man in a sexual way. (If you want to read about it, the post is called “Great Expectations”) In my inner monologue, I have been calling today my “dickiversary“ 🤣🤦🏻‍♂️🍆. I have this thing about commemorating special days. Thinking about

When you realize you don’t WANT to go back to before

This morning I was having a very unexceptional, typical morning in my new life. I woke up in my studio, just across the driveway from the building that I used to call my home (in which my ex and my children still reside). I was eating breakfast, getting dressed, just going through the morning routine.

My Sudden Weakness: Troy

I met Troy about a month ago. He lives in the town next-door, which is quite politically conservative (read: redneck). He organized a Pride run during the month of June, but he didn’t actually know very many gay people in the area. So he posted it on Facebook, told all his straight friends, and hoped

Coming Out on Facebook

Well, I did it, last Monday I made an extremely lengthy post on Facebook (and Instagram) in which I came out to the world at large. It’s been several months since Anne and I ended our marriage and I have been feeling pretty stable in this new way of life for a couple of months

Learning By Doing [Men]

So, I’ve been learning some valuable lessons in being a slut. I recently I got together with a new-to-you man named Zack for the second time. When I had originally gotten together with him I had had a reasonably enjoyable time, but at first I had decided that I wasn’t going to see him again.

Losing My V-Card or My Anus Is Not a Trap Door

Well, I crossed an important barrier in my developmental process as a gay man: I bottomed for the first time last. Two months ago, I wasn’t even sure if bottoming was going to be something that I was interested in doing. Historically, I have felt very insecure about anything involving the anus [For fear that

Grief Is Complicated… And Verbose 🤣

[Written on February 10th, 2022] Today would have been me and Anne’s 23 year dating anniversary. I’ve been dreading this day for a few weeks now. When we were dating in high school we would anticipate February 10th for months. We would talk for hours about what sort of special date we wanted to go